I’m sure you have heard of the saying that “nice guys finish last”? This is a popular statement that many people heard growing up, at least I have heard it a time or two. While I don’t necessarily agree that nice guys finish last, there may be some truth to this saying for many people. If you’ve found that you’re too nice and want to find some ways to gain appreciation as well as respect, then you’ve come to the right place. Today I’m featuring some simple ways to gain appreciation and respect when you’re too nice of a person.
3 Simple Ways to Gain Appreciation and Respect
Know your Rights
If you have found that you have a hard time saying no or setting boundaries with people who just keep taking then you’re too nice. The first step towards gaining appreciation and respect is to start knowing what your individual rights and boundaries are. Being able to have some level of control over your life is what helps keep mental health stable and healthy. Always remember that you have the right to make a decision about what you will do for others when you will do those things and whether or not doing them is a good decision for your own life and peace of mind.
You Don’t Have to be Nice
All too often people who are too nice tend to have negative self-talks about being anything other than super nice. They have developed a pattern of behaviors to say yes to everything because they simply feel they’re being selfish if they stand up for their own rights and boundaries. There’s nothing wrong with saying no to people when you don’t want to do something. You don’t even have to give them an excuse. As you start to say no to more things and free up that mental clutter as well as time in your life by saying no more often, you’ll find that you feel better and gain more appreciation as well as respect from others in the long run. Use this extra gained time to invest in yourself, do nice things for yourself like having a lovely relaxing bath, read some magazines and invest in some new treatments as shared in this post Vogue review of eye creams. This will help you feel better about yourself and your self worth, making it easier to say no to others.
Stop Trying to Please Everyone
If you’re too nice, then chances are you’ve grown accustomed to trying to please everyone. This will totally destroy your self-esteem, your mental health and could even disrupt your sleep patterns. This is the third simple step towards gaining appreciation and respect, setting a boundary of how much you will do for someone else. Learn which friends are toxic and which friends are truly caring people by saying no more often to those who’ve asked too much of you. Once you stop trying to please everyone you’ll quickly find out that your true friends will give you appreciation and respect while the toxic friendships will say negative things or disappear completely from your life.
If you truly want to start gaining appreciation and respect in your life due to being too nice all of these years, then you have to use the tips I shared today. This will get harder before it gets better, but that’s okay. The key to using my simple steps to gain appreciation and respect is to start weeding out those toxic relations and start gaining a smaller circle of people who truly respect you as an individual rather than what you can do for them.